As you all already know, it is of natural human nature to get into romantic relationships. However, even though some relationships last, other couples decide break up and to part ways. But have you ever wondered, how do people decide what to do about their relationships? A new study claims to bring the scientific reasons behind this…
The research was undergone at the University of Utah in Salt Lake City, in collaboration with scientists from the University of Toronto in Canada and was split into two phases:
1’st phase – a sample of volunteers (including people who had contemplated a break up or considering one) were asked about the reasons why they would continue or end a relationship. From this, 27 different reasons for staying an d 23 reasons for leaving were revealed.
2’nd phase – the reasons were put into a questionnaire and given to people who were themselves deciding to leave or stay in their own relationships at the time, as well as people who were dating for about 2 years or married for about 9 years.
From the study, it was confirmed that all participants had similar reasons why to stay and why to leave a relationship.
The main reasons for staying were emotional intimacy, logistical barriers and habituation, and a feeling of commitment to their family.
The main reasons for leaving were partner’s personality, loss of trust and a non supportive/affectionate partner.
‘Across all groups, approximately 50 percent of the participants reported a comparable number of reasons for both staying and leaving, indicating that ambivalence (having mixed feelings) is a very common experience.’
To finish, this is a quote from Professor Samantha Joel:
“What was most interesting to me was how ambivalent people felt about their relationships. They felt really torn. Breaking up can be a really difficult decision. You can look at a relationship from outside and say ‘you have some really unsolvable problems, you should break up’ but from the inside that is a really difficult thing to do and the longer you’ve been in a relationship, the harder it seems to be. Humans fall in love for a reason, from an evolutionary perspective, for our ancestors finding a partner may have been more important than finding the right partner. It might be easier to get into relationships than to get back out of them.”
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